I’ve found the most sexually compatible partner I’ve ever had. And it’s really exciting. Scary, too. There is a lot of bondage with rope; spanking with a paddle, cane, flogger and crop; some really on point sex.

I’ve been hesitant to write about this as I’m discovering more about myself and my body. I don’t really have folks to bounce these thoughts off in person so I’m going to put it out to tumblr and see if I can make some new friends.

Finding a dom takes so much patience. I’ve been looking for someone to be able to do these things safely, within my consent and boundaries, but also willing to adapt and adjust. That’s a lot to ask of anyone. And it is definitely not easy to even begin that process.

And there really is something that really turns me on when I ache the next day, have cane marks on my inner thighs, bite marks and bruises. Aftercare makes my body sing.

happens when you take yourself out on a solo dinner date + drinks.

Clearly I’m winning at life.

(seriously, who else has stumbled into one of these?!)